Since that discussion we had in class about marriage I've been thinking quite a bit about said institution and so far I haven't come up with anything warranting it's existence.
If two people love each other, why do they need a public declaration of their commitment? Is it not enough to say 'we're in love witch each other'?
Aside from the tax benefits and the negative stigma associated with relationships out of wedlock I don't see any real benefit to marriage.
Is love not enough?
So I'm posing the question outwards here, what is the purpose of marriage? I know it's tempting to say that's just the way it is but lets try to avoid that.
For starters let me assert that marriage predates recorded history - the original concept is not tied to a particular identifiable religion or culture. It's more or less universal too.
There must be something obvious.
I see your point, and all the hype about weddings and all the issues about this longlived institution do get tiring. But it is symbolic, it is a public statement and show of love and fidelity. Like an unending ring or cycle, it's supposed show that you are in love and infinitely. It's pretty niave to think that way, but it's the best answer I could come up with, I mean...what else should it be?
ReplyDeleteThank you for responding!!! :D
ReplyDeleteI'm just not so sure why it has to be public. It seems like a very private promise made between the people themselves. Why seek approval from friends and family? Why the fancy dresses and stuffy suits and the rows of lawn chairs and the gazebo and the preacher and the cake and honestly, why the ring? I don't see why we need symbols for love in real life when we've got the real thing.
I think weddings are too often the climax to a romantic relationship, when in fact the celebration should be the continuous affection and partnership afterward.
I'm sorry I missed this comment for two days q-q